Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men :)

This story was brought to my attention by chris myers. :)

Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.

The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.

Researchers admit that looks are subjective, but studies show there are some universal standards, including large eyes, "baby face" features, symmetric faces, so-called average faces, and specific waist-hip ratios in men versus women.

Past research has shown that individuals with comparable stunning looks are attracted to each other and once they hook up they report greater relationship satisfaction. These studies, however, are mainly based on new couples, showing that absolute beauty is important in the earliest stages of couple-hood, said lead researcher James McNulty of the University of Tennessee. But the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a mystery.

The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.

Supportive spouses

McNulty's team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years prior to tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.

Researchers videotaped as each spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners were supportive of spouses' issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more often.

"A negative husband would've said, 'This is your problem, you deal with it,'" McNulty said, "versus 'Hey, I'm here for you; what do you want me to do?; how can I help you?'"

A group of trained "coders" rated the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks.

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A friend's grandmother and mother both told her once to marry a man who "loves her more than she loves him." Perhaps they should have added this to their list too. lol

the second time (kind of the third time too) marrying someone who was a little challenged in the looks dept. because I 'saw something in them'.

Didn't help at all :-)

If you're here to tell me it's my fault - you're right. I meant to do it. It was alot of fun. That's why I have this happy smile on my face.

to snatch me up.

I married so far over my head.

With the caliber of woman that wears my ring, I enjoy the looks she gets when she reveals her credentials and looks we get when they realize whom she married.

Man I wish I had video.

I am the most luckiest man alive.

And I finally can agree with a study posted on this site. :)

That is very nice of you to say of your wife, but have confidence in yourself. She also saw something in you (unless you are filthy rich!). So dont be so hard on yourself, you must be better than you think...........

as confident as I am, and secure as I am, to know I married someone so loving, compassionate, understanding and honest, trusting and caring, devoted and sincere, most patientest human being on this whole planet, extremely degreed in child psychology by one of the highest institutions in Oxford England, 27 year child advocate, educated in Italy for her Montisorri degree, educated in Vienna, I could go on and on.

I went to college for 3 weeks and I'm a maintenance guy and I drink rum and smoke and like NASCAR.

I am humbled each morning when the first rays of dawn brush across the soft features of her face, and as I place the first kiss of the day upon her cheek, and after I whisper my love for her, I remind her again, as I have each morning for the past four years, how grateful I am for her and how much I appreciate all that she gave up for me to come here.

Then I ask her how long till the divorce.

inferiorness in life.

but you'll never change your mentality.

it dosen't take a moron see a moron with another name you've used on GCJ.

I can see why, with you getting your pee pee spanked for being a troll.

grow up.

by the way, you can use that excess envy for flapjacks.

Beyonce and Jay-Z

I definitely married someone a lot better looking than I am and people told her so. They also told her that I was a crazy man and our marriage wouldn't last a year. That was 37 years ago. and we are still married, sometimes happily.

My husband 33 years ago wasn't looking at my face when he first wanted to take me out. He first saw me from behind. So maybe the cheeks on your face aren't as important as the cheeks elsewhere. ;)

I married way out of my league!

Lone Ranger,
It's "inferiority," not "inferiorness." How'd you come up with that construction? Are you buzzed or a public school teacher, or both? Grab a dictionary next time you submit a comment.

Patience is a great virtue.

my friend is very successful and by any standard handsome. He married a plain Jane and said he did so because she is so happy to be his wife she does whatever he tells her to do. He said she is like a little puppy. It also lets him play around.



I didn't interpret it that "she" lets him play...I interpreted it as that the "situation" lets him play. (i.e. - the wife is so naive and/or such a doormat that he can get away with it)

But who knows what he actually meant. lol

Either way, it doesn't sound like much of an enjoyable marriage. Why bother being married if your goal is to play around as much as possible? Just be single, keep your financial assets to yourself (and protected from a divorce), and have all the fun you want.

You guys all say such sweet things about your wives. Says great things about you (and I'm a little bit jealous, to be honest - I don't recall a single complement in 30 years, outside of strangers, and it's not because I am disqusting to look at.) Most men (in my experience) don't say things like that about their spouses - even if they think it to themselves, they don't verbalize it.

i agree with this study. i've been married for 9 years to an amazing man. he has been the best thing that has happened to me. i could only imagine the trouble i would have gotten myself into with the wild and too cute men. it's not to say that i think my husband is not attractive, he is, but it was not the most important quality to me when looking for a husband. he showed me how to pick myself back up and to belive in myself after several tragic things happened in my life. he showed me what it means to be truly loved and, he's
not just out for my body. he's also a very stable man who has been with the same company for 10 years, he's 34. he's an amazing father who loves playing with them every night. looks aren't everything, it's the person inside that counts.

How's that old song go........."If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, from my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you...." But I have seen many gross, ugly women with very attractive men - it goes both ways I think. Beautiful women have a higher percentage of suicide rates, are more insecure a lot of times. They've also (not all) floated by on their looks their whole lives so they never had to develop personalies as much - they can often be vapid, boring, self absorbed, stupid, and shallow. As men can too, I'm sure. I always tried to avoid dating the pretty boys - atttractive is nice, but if a guy is too pretty, he usually knows it & acts the part. I've avoided men who are too interested in fashion or looking 'hip', or use a lot of products. I always wanted my men to be real men - not too groomed & perfect looking, no pretty boys. I married a good, solid man - just not a big talker or complement giver - just how he was raised. But I wasnt raised to expect those things either - never needed to be validated all the time. I know when my husband says I'm 'not too bad for an old broad', it comes from the heart. I think if he started giving me flowery complements, I'd assume he's cheating on me & has a guilty conscience. Anyway - my point was simply that you can't generalize - I don't know how (or why) they'd even measure somethng like this . I see an awful lot of gross troll women with gorgeous men & vice versa - there's got to be more than good looks going on to maintain a relationship. Looks can fade.

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