Twin beds may benefit marriages

LONDON, March 23 (UPI) -- British sleep researchers say the secret of a happy marriage may be separate beds -- or even separate bedrooms.

The Sleep Council reports that when couples share a bed both may be woken about six times during the night by their partners, The Times of London said. The problem is worse if one or both snores or has restless leg syndrome.

About 25 percent of British adults snore, the British Snoring and Sleep Apnea Association said. The problem may cost their partners two hours of sleep every night.

In the United States, researchers at the University of Wisconsin found that the greatest marital problems seem to occur when one partner is a lark, getting up early in the morning ready for the day, and the other an owl who prefers to stay up late and sleep in. A California woman ended up getting a divorce because she got fed up with her husband's habit of staying up late playing computer games.

For other couples, separate bedrooms could be the right choice. The National Association of Home Builders predicted that by 2015 a majority of custom-built homes will have his-and-hers master bedrooms.

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Sometimes waking up in the middle of the night is a good thing......


"A California woman ended up getting a divorce because she got fed up with her husband's habit of staying up late playing computer games."

that's really sad!

i'm sticking with one bed. :) besides, i'd most likely get stuck with the dog and cats in my bed. :)

"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to
a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music
and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."
Henny Youngman


Good one.

I'm all for one bed, as long as it's a king size bed...

You can snuggle when you want, getting away is easy and late night visits are a snap.

My husband can't fall asleep without the TV on (he sets the sleep timer so that the TV turns itself off some time after he falls asleep). I have a very hard time falling asleep *with* it on.

We finally realized that it wasn't doing either of us any good to not get the sleep that we need. So, we came up with a solution for work nights.

Didn't go to the extreme of separate bedrooms. We "hang out" together in our bedroom for the early part of the evening. (Take "hanging out" however you may choose to interpret After spending some quality time together, when I'm at the point where I'm actually ready to just sleep I slip over to the extra bedroom.

Doesn't interfere with intimacy b/c 1) its not every night - just the specific nights when I have to be up early for work and 2) even on those nights, we still spend quality time together. He gets to fall asleep with background noise, I get to sleep in a quiet environment. My alarm doesn't wake him up in the morning (I have to be up much earlier than he does). Pretty much a win-win all the way around...both of us are much happier and function better when we get the sleep that we need. And we still um "hang out" more frequently than what the surveys say the typical married couple does...maybe because we're more well rested. lol

and unless you're wealthy, living space is a premium over there.

Being married to a life-long Brit whom had these living arrangements in her former relationship, seperate quarters was designed for a full night sound sleep. There is no room in most of these places for a king-sized bed with nightstands and dressers in any bedroom, so instead of being piled upon each other in a queen, sleeping in seperate rooms provide the sound sleep needed, especially with a partner that sleeps restlessly.

My parents slept in twin beds my entire life. My parents were older when I was born so maybe it was just a carry over from the times or something but it worked for them.

Im with Sensor, big bed is definatly a nessisary. However i can also say that i too need background noise so i just turn on the fan and point it away from me, it works pretty well and since its not the tv it doesnt disturb hubby. 8-)

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